The impostor syndrome can only be changed when a person learns to change their internal communication style. We don’t often think of internal communication but in many ways, it is more important than external communication. How you talk to yourself, precedes how you will talk to others. If you have self-defeating self-talk, […]
Once she was able to recognize the patterns, we were able to identify some of her self-talk and beliefs. Working to rethink these thoughts and beliefs, she was able to stop her self-sabotage and create a supportive thinking pattern for herself. Her performance improved almost immediately. She had several conversations with the […]
The best way to help this person is to help them understand their fear. To give them an open ear in a way that does not push or threaten them. I once worked with a woman who showed great potential as a leader but consistently refused promotions and challenging assignments. The VP […]
Much of what we believe about ourselves comes from early training and treatment from adults. The imposter syndrome can often be traced to beliefs a person learned in childhood. People of all walks of life suffer from this syndrome. As a coach you may see it in a team member who is […]
Much of what we believe about ourselves comes from early training and treatment from adults. The imposter syndrome can often be traced to beliefs a person learned in childhood. People of all walks of life suffer from this syndrome. As a coach you may see it in a team member who is […]
Another woman I tested a couple of years ago had a very timid demeanor. She spoke softly and rarely challenged anyone in leadership meetings. The VP saw a lot of potential in her but was puzzled why such an intelligent woman could not hold her own in the leadership meetings.
Her testing showed her […]
My theory is that we have hidden beliefs because we are afraid to openly admit we believe something. It may be something that is socially unacceptable, politically incorrect, or something we got in trouble for as a child and still feel like we have to hide it. Hiding it from ourselves does not […]
I am pretty skeptical about self help stuff but a few years ago I took a course that lived up to its promise in helping me identify my own hidden beliefs and learn how those beliefs help or hinder me in my goals. The key is to learn how to see the world from […]
They are beliefs you may not even realize you have until you encounter someone with a much different belief system. We generally choose jobs, friends, and neighborhoods where we will not encounter people with very different belief systems. We also, in the name of politeness, tend to agree with people even when we […]
I am pretty skeptical about self help stuff but a few years ago I took a course that lived up to its promise in helping me identify my own hidden beliefs and learn how those beliefs help or hinder me in my goals. The key is to learn how to see the world from […]
Have you ever felt like you were doing everything you knew how to do with your team but still not getting the results you want? Your intentions are good but your skills aren’t equal to the task? This can be very frustrating because you don’t even know where to look to find the […]
If you took the Beck Depression inventory (see link on Monday) and you scored in the 21-40+ range, you should consider doing something about it soon.
The first step is to admit to yourself that it you may be depressed. Second, do an honest self-assessment. Second, talk to someone you trust, who will be honest […]
I test a great many managers and coaches every year. Consistently, 10-15% of these managers are actively experiencing mild to moderate depression. As many as 5% are actively experiencing severe depression. I don’t know if managers experience more depression than non-managers, but with the pressures of today’s work environment, it would not […]
I had a great week working with a management team in Charleston. Testing all of the managers and giving them individual feedback. The team was remarkably accepting of the information and open to change. It is refreshing to work with a whole team that is obviously open to information and change and […]